- I have 3 small children. I found 2 is my limit but I’ll keep the third.
- I’m a little funny. Unless, of course, you have a sense of humor. In that case, I’m not funny at all.
- I speak a few words and phrases in Albanian. The term “speak” I use loosely as no real Albanians can understand me.
- I was born in the Midwest. Raised in the South. Educated in the East. Now I have found my way back to the Middle.
- I really love my mother-in-law but she doesn’t always understand me. Refer back to #3.
- I trained in classical ballet for my entire childhood. All that remains are a few broken pointe shoes and a love of classical music. Guess what you do at 12 years old doesn’t always determine the rest of your life.
- I hate flying. I would rather give birth naturally. I have given birth naturally. I still prefer it over flying.
- I LOVE to travel, which is made difficult by #7. I fly anyway. I’m done giving birth.
- I know how to moon walk. True story. Give me a pair of socks and some nice hardwood floors.
- I don’t give my mom enough credit. She is fearless, determined and optimistic at all costs. She has learned from life’s lessons. She has broken her back and broken her head. I hope to one day learn to be as fearless as her without breaking my head, of course.
- My husband is the person I trust most in this world.
- I judge people for being judgmental. Go figure.
- The women in my life astonish me with their generosity, support, intelligence and humor. I don’t understand the phrase, “Women are catty.”
- Being a stay-at-home mother is more challenging than I ever dreamed. I am not always up for the challenge.
- Sometimes I peruse the dessert section of Whole Foods and pretend I’m on vacation in a quaint European bakery. No joke! Sad. I know.
- I have a fondness for Coolio. I spent my junior year singing, “Gangstas in Paradise,” as I drove my country back roads to school. I’m neither a gangsta nor was I living in paradise.
Want to know what is in your child’s morning breakfast?
How about corn syrup, high fructose corn syrup, food dyes and preservatives….the list goes on and on. Did I mention TBHQ!? What is TBHQ? I am glad you asked!
Okay, maybe 10 minutes if you count the time it takes for the eggs to cook. Alissa Segersten, author of the Whole Life Nutrition Cookbook, created the following genius recipe:
- Put the desired number of eggs in your food processor or blender.
- Add dark leafy greens such as spinach.
- Push the chop button. Watch out! It is getting technical here…
- Add the green mixture to your hot pan.
- Salt and pepper to taste.
- Scramble as usual!!!
Really, does it get any easier? Or healthier? My kids LOVED the idea of eating green eggs and, frankly, the cooked spinach barely altered the flavor.
Now for the reasons why you should feed your children and yourself green eggs for breakfast other than it sounds really cute after you have read Dr. Seuss’s book. Keep on reading>
The idea of sending your child, whole family or yourself to therapy can be an intimidating thought but it doesn’t have to be. For many, scary stereotypes of therapy sessions gone horribly wrong swirl around their brain. Troubling ideas of what therapy means keep them from crossing their emotional boundaries and they convince themselves they can solve their own problems. Even you may think to yourself, “I don’t need a professional’s help!”
I can promise you all of these ideas and stereotypes are wrong. Therapists are real people with lives that are just as “imperfect” as the clients they help. They do not have all the answers to life and should not pretend they do. Are there therapists who have gone rogue? Sure. But all professions contain a few of those. Don’t let them speak for the greater population. Most therapists I know are warm, inviting, engaging, open-minded and, generally, have a true desire to help people better their lives. They should be well-educated and culturally-sensitive. Many times, they possess humor and a deep love of people.
Children, parents, everyone and anyone can have a day that just isn’t working out as planned. It is part of life. We all say and do things we regret. I know I do. If you read Suit Up! Parenting Can Be an Emotional Battle then you know I am not lying! I know as a mother there can be multiple times in one day when I want to push the start-over button. Unfortunately, there have been too many times when I have made a snarky remark to my husband or children or yelled when I had absolutely no intention of yelling and I just wanted to be rescued from my situation. So if I feel this way as an adult, I can only imagine how are little ones must feel. Good thing there is one question that always reframes my day and the day of my children.
Can we start over?
When most people think of calcium I am sure two things pop into mind:
Strong bones and…
Calcium is so much more. According to Columbia psychiatrist, Dr. Drew Ramsey, “calcium regulates the electrical circuitry of our brains and hearts.” He goes on to note that calcium is “involved in the survival of neurons and the formation of new connections in the brain.”
- Acknowledge your child’s feelings and then empathize.
- Create healthy sleep routines. Settle and rise the same everyday.
- Help your child reduce their cortisol levels. (laugh, hug, cry, exercise)
- Establish daily vigorous exercise routines for a minimum of 30 minutes.
- Reduce technology use in your home especially in the evening hours.
- Reduce or eliminate sugar and simple carbohydrates in your diet.
- Try 10 minutes of meditation a day.
- Start journaling to sort out troublesome feelings and thoughts.
- Make family meals a priority.
- Find a fun family activity every member loves and do it together!
- Teach your child social skills by role modeling appropriate social behavior. (Ex: put your phone down and make eye contact while your child or partner is speaking to you. Everyone likes to feel heard when they are communicating.)
- Seek therapy if you, your child or your family is struggling.
- Get outside for fresh air and sunlight everyday.
- Give your children lots of free time to play.
- Reduce or eliminate processed foods from your family’s diet.
- Eat whole foods, omega-3 foods, and fermented foods.
- Change what isn’t working in your family.