Bullying and its offshoot, Cyberbullying are two terms, which carry heavy weight. Since Columbine, Americans are quick to identify what is disproportionately normative behavior in childhood development as something sinister in its origins. With the advent of social media, one phrase misplaced can create a tidal wave of social destruction. Children are learning about boundaries in a world that cannot contain them. Before you jump to conclusions that your child may be a victim of a bully or the one busy doing the bullying look for signs that may help point you in the correct direction.
Waiting for perfection to arrive, we sacrifice. We sacrifice without knowing. We sacrifice daily. We lose out to the unattainable leaving ourselves frustrated and stressed in the pursuit. Is this the road trip we want to take in life? One of the things I love most in life is an unplanned road trip. Maybe it is just another paradox of my life. I love the unexpected but I want to plan the unexpected. I don’t want it to creep up on me in my sleep. I try to constantly find ways to control my daily existence. Strange, I know. But I am human and I do. And isn’t that what control is all about? Wanting a world to respond in perfect order. Like all the time. 24/7. I sacrifice everyday in small ways and large as a slave to perfection. Chances are perfection is pulling you away from the very thing you want most out of life. Waiting for perfection to arrive:
As you can tell by my title I, in my ignorance, pronounced hygge as “higgy” because that is what you do when you don’t have a firm or loose grasp on the Danish language. The Danes, who originated the concept, actually pronounce it, “hoo-guh.” The term, with no direct English translation, refers to feeling cozy in a manner that creates contentment. Think of words that may bring the Danish spirit of hygge alive in your heart: relaxation, comfort, hug, console and you will be that much closer to the idea of “hoo-ugh!”
Apples are one of the most commonly eaten fruits in America. Antioxidant missiles are loaded in these nutrition bombs. We all know about the sweet crunchy taste of an apple but many of us are unaware that apples contain an unique chemical makeup in the form of quercetin, catechin, cholorgenic acid, and phloridzin. It’s literally a mouthful, I know. These difficult to pronounce antioxidants fight free radicals and oxidative stress, which we know by now can lead to the proliferation of disease in the human body when gone unchecked.
Have you ever given your kid an ice cream cone or candy bar and watched the immediate high unravel in a dizzying whirl? You know where I am going with this article. Sugar and simple carbohydrates (you got it – another form of sugar) is jacking up your child’s anxiety. And if your child is not already anxious, sugar and simple carbs has the ability to create anxiety in your child over time. We are talking about cookies, cupcakes, donuts, bagels, pasta, muffins, potato chips, soda, sports drinks, juice and flavored milk. We are talking about foods and beverages that make the average kid salivate at the mere suggestion one is coming his/her way.
I love berries. And chances are- you do too! Beyond their wonderful taste, here a few reasons to make raspberries a new weekly addition in your family’s diet. Raspberries are extremely low in sugar. 5 grams to an entire cup! Perfect for those who are trying to follow a low-sugar lifestyle. Dr. Axe states, “Raspberries are very low on the glycemic index ranking as a 3 in glycemic load. Low-glycemic foods, such as raspberries, have little impact on blood sugar, ultimately helping stabilize it. Overall, it makes this low-sugar and high-fiber food option a great choice to include in any diabetic diet plan.” If you follow my blog, you know that destabilized blood sugar lends itself to a destabilized mood. If we want to improve our mood with our food; raspberries are one way to do it.
No one wants his/her child to feel depressed and/or anxious. No one wants a child to suffer needlessly. Many times we look for complicated answers to simple questions. Is my child depressed? Is my child struggling with anxiety? Sometimes we can find the answer with an easy test. Depression and anxiety can occur as a result of an undetected nutritional deficiency. Unfortunately, most doctors will not screen for this routinely nor will therapists suggest this in most cases. Hopefully, we can change that dialogue. So until your practitioners suggest these guidelines; I will suggest them for you. If you or a loved one is suffering from symptoms of depression or anxiety, please go to your doctor and request the following lab work:
- Daily vigorous exercise. Make yourself sweat!
- Get outdoors and feel the sun on your skin.
- Eat a variety of fruits and vegetables.
- Eat Omega-3 fats from fatty fish such as Wild Alaskan Sockeye Salmon.
- Cut out sugar and simple carbohydrates.
- Take a new class (sewing, dancing or cooking).
- Be social. Go out and laugh and talk.
- Call a friend.
- Do something kind for someone else.
- Play with your children. Hug your children. Laugh with your children.
- Start a gratitude journal to help reframe your thoughts.
- Go to bed and wake up the same time everyday to normalize your circadian rhythm.
- Reduce or eliminate alcohol.
- Read a book.
- Begin a daily meditation practice. Start with just 5 minutes and build your way up.
- Drink more water. Dehydration in its mildest form can cause pain, lethargy and even anxiety.
- Take a break from social media.
- Say NO to activities that add stress to your family life.
- Value your family by valuing yourself first. If you are depleted – no one benefits.
- Smile and choose happiness. Or start with choosing moments of happiness.
- Understand that every thought and every feeling is temporary. Acknowledge, learn and move on.
- Learn to apologize and learn to forgive.
- Learn a new skill.
- Cook a meal with your children.
- Attempt to be present in every moment.
I am not waiting anymore. I am not waiting for another study to tell me how to behave. I am not waiting for pharmaceutical companies to finally act in an ethical manner. I am not waiting for major food corporations to take responsibility for their wrongdoing. I am not waiting for someone else to give me the answers because I already have them. We all have them. However, we are led to believe otherwise.
If you follow my work; you should be aware, be very aware of the angle from which I write. I want to be transparent. If you are taking time out of your busy day to read something I have written I want you to know first and foremost I am grateful. Second, I believe you deserve my truth and if my truth doesn’t jive with yours; you have the opportunity to always walk away.