My Personal Beliefs As A Former Clinician

If you follow my work; you should be aware, be very aware of the angle from which I write.  I want to be transparent. If you are taking time out of your busy day to read something I have written I want you to know first and foremost I am grateful.  Second, I believe you deserve my truth and if my truth doesn’t jive with yours; you have the opportunity to always walk away.


Many times I have hesitated before pressing the publish button because I was concerned I may ruffle feathers with my viewpoints or make people feel uncomfortable in their choices but then I realized this is exactly what I should be doing.  Not offending anyone (never my goal) but challenging people to look deeper as I attempt to challenge myself everyday.  People are responsible for their own reactions and feelings.  Without differing thoughts and opinions we would get nowhere fast.  And I feel there is too much going on in our world right now to remain silent.  So I will advocate for what I believe to be right in the hopes that you will find it within yourself to do the same.

As a former therapist, a wife, a mother and as a human being these are my personal beliefs – this is the lens through which I viewed my work in therapy and now the lens through which I view my writing and advocacy:

  1. All people and I do mean ALL people deserve to be treated as human beings especially children.
  2. Every person on the planet is responsible for his/her own choices and the consequences that follow.
  3. We all make mistakes.  Own it, forgive yourself and move forward.
  4. Welcome every single feeling you have.  Acknowledge it, listen to it and work through it. Do not run from it.  I repeat.  Do not run!
  5. The air we breathe, the water we drink and the food we eat matters.  I can think of no greater movement than the movement to restore one’s health and improve one’s life through nutrition and a healthy lifestyle. It should not be a class issue.  It should be a human issue!
  6. A majority of mental health issues could be resolved through proper therapy, a proper support system, proper exercise and a proper diet.
  7. We need to work as a community to move forward in life.  Upward mobility does not occur in a vacuum.
  8. In general, people are doing the best they know how to do.
  9. Children need eye contact when you/they are speaking.  They are learning social skills from you – the parent.  It is okay to put away your phone.
  10. Children need room to run wild and act like children.
  11. Boredom ignites creativity.  Allow for the quiet to creep in.
  12. Black-ish might be one of the best shows on television.  What does it have to do with my work in the field of therapy? Nothing.  I just knew you needed this information.  You are welcome.  🙂
  13. Sugar is a powerful elixir and should be taken with caution.
  14. Therapy is an opportunity to have an unbiased, educated observer invited into your life for no other reason than to help you improve it.  Who doesn’t want that?
  15. The brain is plastic.  Thank goodness!  With the right work, you can form and reform your brain to invite in a calmer state of being, a happier state of being and a healthier state of being.
  16. Our children are growing up in an epidemic of illness despite all modern medicine has to offer- allergies, autism, obesity, type 2 diabetes, cancer, depression, anxiety…at what point do we put two and two together and begin to create change? We have to look at how we are contributing to societal ills.  It all begins in each of our homes.  We have the power to heal.
  17. Exercise and eating right can be time consuming.  However, you are going to spend time on good health or you are going to spend time on illness.  How do you want to spend your time?
  18. Hovering over your children does not protect them.  In fact, it does quite the opposite.  It instills a sense of insecurity and anxiety. Now where can I drop my kids off to roam free?  No, really, where? 🙂
  19. Spanking children teaches children nothing other than fear and shame.  As parents, we can do better.
  20. Active listening is always what the other person wants.  Whether it is your child, your parent, or your partner – each person wants to be “heard.”  I think we would all be better off if we simply listened attentively to each other.
  21. Everyday is a new day to start again.  There is always hope.  Always.

The author, Mary Shelley, states it beautifully, “I think that I can maintain myself, and there is something inspiriting in the idea.”