Reframe Your Day With One Question
Children, parents, everyone and anyone can have a day that just isn’t working out as planned. It is part of life. We all say and do things we regret. I know I do. If you read Suit Up! Parenting Can Be an Emotional Battle then you know I am not lying! I know as a mother there can be multiple times in one day when I want to push the start-over button. Unfortunately, there have been too many times when I have made a snarky remark to my husband or children or yelled when I had absolutely no intention of yelling and I just wanted to be rescued from my situation. So if I feel this way as an adult, I can only imagine how are little ones must feel. Good thing there is one question that always reframes my day and the day of my children.
Can we start over?
I can’t tell you how many times I have asked this question of myself and then gone on to ask my three small children…Can we start over? Without fail, it works every single time. Maybe not immediately but within minutes (okay, sometimes a couple of hours) my children’s anger or sadness fades when they internalize they have the opportunity to start again. Who doesn’t want the chance to try again?
So next time you feel consumed by your children’s poor behavior or your own; stop and ask the one question that can reframe your day… Can we start over? Yes, we can! Thank goodness and Amen!